Some time ago I found myself single for the first time in 5 years.
Having never dated as an adult, I was at a total and utter loss.
What the fuck is a Tinder?
Why are all the guys are the bar so young?
How the hell do people meet these days?
I rebounded immediately with Matthew and assumed all my dating experiences would be as breezy. After all:
He approached me and we immediately hit it off.
It was the best sex I’ve ever had.
He treated me with all the respect of a girlfriend but we had the freedom to do whatever/whomever we liked.
It was easy. Simple.
Every guy since then? Not so much…
When I met Dan I was immediately smitten. I felt I’d played it pretty cool and that we’d fallen into a similar, easy situation.
When he transitioned me to a secret booty call, I was confused.
But he had genuinely seemed to like me….
That’s when I remembered that people are assholes and most guys will say or do whatever it takes to get a lady in the sack.
There are a few unspoken rules regarding dating. From what I’ve seen and pieced together over the past couple years these include but aren’t limited to:
- Don’t have sex on the first date
- Wait at least 2 hours before texting back; be sure to prepare the coolest and wittiest response possible
- Don’t discuss past relationships
- Never disclose your ‘number’ or give them any indication you’ve ever had sex with anyone else
- Most importantly: Do not EVER let them know how much you like them
I hate these rules.
I love sex and don’t want to wait an allotted amount of time only to potentially get fucked and chucked anyway.
Any guy who would judge me on my sexual past doesn’t deserve a place in my life anyway.
Can’t we just be honest with each other? Can’t I just tell a guy how I feel about him to ensure we’re on the page before we invest too much time or someone gets hurt.
Let’s change the way we date guys!