Kissing – Pecks, open-mouthed, tongue.
Some people see it as a very intimate action.
Yet, in many cultures, kissing on the cheek or mouth is a normalized greeting.
There’s the myth perpetuated by Pretty Woman when Julia Roberts firmly tells Richard Gere, “I don’t kiss on the mouth.”
Or there’s The Inbetweeners 2 when Will’s childhood friend Katie greets everyone with an open mouth kiss.
People can be good kissers, bad kissers, sloppy kissers, hard kissers, soft kissers…
Even Wikipedia offers a long and almost contradictory explanation:
Cultural connotations of kissing vary widely. Depending on the culture and context, a kiss can express sentiments of love, passion, romance, sexual attraction, sexual activity, sexual arousal, affection, respect, greeting, friendship, peace and good luck, among many others. In some situations a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect, or sacrament.
What about kissing someone on a first date? In this Tinder and booze-filled dating world is that even considered taboo anymore?
Last night a few of us were sitting around my house, having a few beers and shooting the shit. We’d run through our arsenal of drinking games and card games and Kennedy joked that we should play “Spin The Bottle.”
“What are we 12?” our male guests asked in mock horror. But Kennedy had the hots for one of our guests, I had the hots for another, so we kept jokingly pushing it. Kennedy spun a plastic bottle and it landed on me, all the boys started heckling us, “What are you girls going to do now?”
So we leaned across the table and kissed each other quickly on the lips. Then we continued to play. I kissed both the guy I was pining over and the other one. I was relatively sober. I don’t regret it in the slightest. It was nice, getting to kiss all these people. In what other context is that ever acceptable? (Other than, obviously, orgies.)
I kiss people all the time, for a variety of reasons and I enjoy it. That’s not to say I’m necessarily easy. If I don’t want to kiss someone, there’s no amount of convincing that will change my mind (I’ve been in such situations before.)
I’ve passionately made out with everyone of my girlfriends. That’s not to say I do it for attention, since it’s always private and for our own enjoyment.
I just want to be a make out bandit. Is that so wrong?